Join Free Now

Newbie Guide: What a Lifestyle Club Is — & Isn't

SDC Openlove 101 Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide Swingers Open NonMonogamy Nightlife
SDC Openlove 101 Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide Swingers Open NonMonogamy Nightlife
An LS club is a safe space for those who want to explore themselves as much as exploring the boundaries of their relationships.

First off, let’s clear any crazy preconceived ideas about a lifestyle club. Are you going to be dropped into the center of a porn movie? Don’t expect that to happen. (I mean, unless that’s something you’re wanting to create… then, by all means, have at it.)

What to Expect

No, what you can expect is to enter a club in which couples and singles meet and mingle in a sexy environment. Notice I said sexy environment, not sex environment. Just because you’re in a lifestyle club doesn’t mean you have to do anything sexual. 

Consent is a STRONG theme in lifestyle clubs. In fact, it’s MUCH more emphasized at a “sex” club than a typical night club. That’s actually a big reason why a lot of (single) women enjoy attending — they can dance, drink, and have a great time with less worry about being harassed. 

If you want to just hang out and be in a fun and sexy environment (without having to do anything sexual), you can do that at a lifestyle club. Or, on the other end of the spectrum, if you want to meet other couples and fool around with them, that’s possible too, along with everything else in between. It’s your choice.

The club members at colette are very respectful to one another and not aggressive or pushy. As an added safety feature, anyone with inappropriate behavior will be asked by security to leave the club (just let the staff or management know).

Who Goes to Lifestyle Clubs

Openlove 101 SDC Newbie Lifestyle Guide AttendeesColette isn’t just for swingers. We lovingly welcome all different types of people: 

  • Bisexual (yes both men & women)
  • Pansexual
  • BDSM
  • Kink
  • Trans
  • Open
  • Poly
  • Consensual non-monogamy
  • Or just anyone curious and open-minded

It has always been our belief at colette, that the expression of sexual freedom is paramount. We (colette clubs) like to think of ourselves as a safe space for those who want to explore themselves as much as exploring the boundaries of their relationships. Sexuality is a huge part of who we are as humans... let’s focus less on labels and more on acceptance of each other.

The Full Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide

There are four parts to our Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide here on SDC. Click here for the introduction. You can find the rest of the links below:

1. What a Lifestyle Club Is — & Isn't (you're here)

2. The Pre-Club Talk & Prep

3. Lifestyle Club Etiquette

4. You're at the Club. Now What?

By taking these steps in this guide, you can have an incredible first time (or anytime) experience at a lifestyle club that will keep you cumming back for more! (I couldn’t resist!)

Happy swinging!


Openlove 101 SDC Newbie Lifestyle Club Guide

See our links in the bio below for more about us and Openlove 101.

Openlove 101

John and Jackie Melfi are swingers in an open relationship. Together they are the driving force behind, a swingers' club brand with locations in Dallas, New Orleans, Houston, and Austin. John has been in the swinger club industry for 20 years, and when he and Jackie met, they expanded the business in order to reach and educate more couples and singles curious about the lifestyle. Their first venture together was the award winning lifestyle blog, Today this swinging powerhouse coach couples on the lifestyle, provide video content, blog weekly on the topic and have been the recipients of numerous industry awards. Visit to sign up for their FREE newsletter and receive updates on their videos and articles.
  • Anonymous
Nov 19, 2019
I was introduced to the lifestyle by some friends out in LA. Honestly, didn't think this world existed, but as with anything, there are rules, and so I've thoroughly enjoyed myself within the parameters of the private lifestyle events that I've been a part of, and looking forward to more lifestyle adventures with the right couples.
Nov 16, 2019
I'm experiencing a t-shirt and panties/underwear party tonight. My advice is always know the circumstances before going and treat the club like any normal club. If you dint do it in a normal club behavioral wise than just dont do it.
Nov 16, 2019
My fear was going as a solo male. I felt as is a solo make would look very weird and lame. My first experience was with a female partner and it was a blast. I've only been in the LS for less than a year so I'm still a newbie but loving it!